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COUNSELING AND FAMILY
VIOLENCE

STUDENT Workbook

BY
DR. STAN DE KOVEN

COUNSELING MINISTRY AN FAMILY VIOLENCE AND ABUSE

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Introduction (text page 6)

  1. This book is written for those who suffer and for thoseandwho desire to be “wounded healers.”
  2. Fully detailing theof abuse.
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Gods Agenda for the Family (text page 7)

  1. Theis God’s primary unit for socialization.
  2. Ais a system of people whowith each other.
  3. The Body of Christ is designed by God to be afor people of God.
  4. The Homeostatic Balance
  5. Pastors and Counselors must be willing to deal with the whole family system without
    or
  6. Examples of violence are:
  7. God’s plan for the family:
    Genesis 1:3

    Eph. 5:21

    Eph. 6:4

    Col. 3:18-21

    I Peter3:1-12
  8. Discuss the following:
    Love

    submit

    obey

    Provoking to anger

    As Christ loved the church
  9. God desires to bring the family tothrough the power of Jesus Christ.
  10. Definition of terms:
    Family

    Violence

    Abuse

    Neglect
  11. Children may preferto neglect.
  12. The mandates of Scripture:
    Galatians 6:1 - The responsibility to
    II Cor. 1:3 _ The responsibility to
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Family, the Nature of Violence (text page 10)

  1. Some causes of abusive families are:

  2. Rape is
  3. Exodus 20:34, Generational Curses:
  4. Herb Goldberg’s work in this field indicates the following:
    A. The buildup of rage in the male-female relationships is due to the interaction of masculine and feminine


    B. Defense mechanisms are due toconditioning.
  5. Discuss learned feminine
    repress
  6. Discuss Masculine repression:
  7. Discuss females expression of rage

  8. Discuss male expression of rage
  9. Some suggested “ingredients” that can lead to rage are:

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Family Stress and Distress (text page 20)

  1. Stress defined: A non-specific response of theto any demand, whether it is caused by or the results in:orconditions.
  2. Stress is the principal cause of mostproblems and unhealthysystems.
  3. Dr. William F Lee said, “Science...cannotthe causes ofand distress. They can only control the symptoms, The only _comes from a reawakening of our relationship with.
  4. Causes of stress include:
    A.
    B.
    C.
  5. Four steps to managing anger are:
    A.
    B.
    C.
    D.
  6. A typical family response to stress is to in support. Non typical inappropriate responses are:
    A.
    B.
    C.
  7. Stress may be contained through nutrition.-and.
  8. Activating control methods include:
    A.time with spouse.
    B.of communication that causes hostility.
  9. Self-image improvement methods: Value supporting behavior
  10. To benefit from stress we must have that keep us in balance under pressure.
  11. Conditional support systems
  12. Unconditional support systems
  13. There was great stress in and surrounding the life of the Lord Jesus Christ and His family. Discuss examples:

  14. “Life isandis
    Early childhood:
    Middle Childhood:
    Adolescence:
    Early Adulthood:
    Middle Adulthood:
    Later Adulthood:
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Family Communication and Violence (text page 26)

  1. As the Christian counselor will discover, most families experiencing domestic violence have faulty communications: Discuss the following:
    Timing: -
    Overstatement:
    Excessive lecturing:
    Mind reading:
    Projecting blame: -
    Triangulation:
  2. The Bible and Communication: Discuss Eph. 4:25-32:

  3. Summary: communication is lacking in the violent family system.,communication can be developed with judicious application ofand through Hisand.
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Spousal Abuse (text page 28)

  1. Definition:

  2. Learned helplessness is
  3. Battering includes:
  4. Violence includes:
  5. Psychological abuse is:
  6. Isolation abuse is:
  7. Humiliation and degradation abuse are examples of:
  8. Enforcement of trivial demands implies:
  9. Sexual abuse: Discuss the following:
    Marital rape:
    Sex in front of children:
  10. Sexual abuse destroys the spouse’sand.
  11. Lenore Walker describes how these events usually occur in a cycle: Discuss: Tension building:

    Violent episodes:

    Honeymoon Phase:
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Alcohol, Drugs and Abuse (text page 34)

  1. Alcohol and drug abuse are notfactors but can be theof violence.
  2. Discuss I Cor. 6:20:

  3. Alcohol and drugs will:
    Lower good
    Decrease
    Give “permission” to impulsive, hostility and sexual acting out.
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Adolescent Violence in the Family (text page 36)

  1. The primary causes of adolescent’s abuse and violence are
  2. Adolescents will likelypatterns of abuse and coercion learned in the home.
  3. Virginia Satir has developed roles that people play in an abusive family:
    Enabler:
    The family hero:
    The scapegoat:
    The lost child:
    The mascot:
    The adolescent’s dysfunctional role:
  4. Withoutthe abuser will probably .
  5. The abusive adolescent will become an .
  6. The abuser must come to knowas hisand be filled with the Holy Spirit.
  7. Abusive adolescents must learn how tothemselves
  8. The 12 step program:
  9. Learning the Word of God:
  10. A Strict and disciplined approach is required

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Child Abuse (text page 39)

  1. According to Justice and Justice, “The vast majority of child abusers are not,they defyclassification and come from allgroups.
  2. Gill states, child abuse is one more aspect of thesyndrome.
  3. Gilles’ theory: “Child abuse is a particularto stress.
  4. The Kempe, Helfer group suggested a three factor theory of child abuse. the factors are:
    A.
    B.
    C.
  5. Romes and Rahe discussed a “chronic state of.”
  6. The parent’s abuse is usually directed at thechild.
  7. The special child is usually the greatestto the parents seeking the same thing.
  8. At particular risk are children who are
  9. Justice and Justice suggest cultural
  10. Biblical scripts quoted and misused like, “spare rod....spoil child
  11. Media presentation of perfect ideals”
    A. “ mom and baby,” to live up to ideals, scripted by in modern culture, produce guilt and ,
  12. In dealing with child abuse the various agencies all serve specific functions:
    A. The law enforcement officer will decide
    B. The investigating officer will the child. the child. Examine the child for .
    C. The child should be and what is going on.
  13. The Legal community
  14. Depending on the county of jurisdiction the legal community may agree to if the suspect is to or counseling.
  15. The probation department may determine for probation. specific condition for probation and .
  16. Typical recommendations
  17. The medical community plays a crucial role in child abuse
  18. Medical personnel consider indices such as:
  19. The law requires doctors and nurses to
  20. Social Welfare (Social Services Department) functions:
    Crisis
    Supervision:
    Offer ongoing to the family.
    Make to the .
  21. Schools have a duty to not suspected abuse.
  22. Some of the symptomatic signs of abuse and neglect include:
  23. Schools can play a role in prevention by
  24. The church can offer on .
  25. The Church can be a great force in the prevention, by being a , providing .
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Sexual Abuse (text page 44)

  1. Dr. Allender writes that, “Sexual abuse often follows a typical sequence of stages:
    A.
    B.
    C.
    D.
  2. Definition of Sexual Abuse.
  3. One in males are sexually abused.
  4. One in females are sexually abuse.
  5. % are abused by someone they .
  6. Sexual abuse is the victim’s fault.
  7. The touch system:
    A. lack of touch
    B. good touch
    C. confusing touch
    D. bad touch
  8. Developing a support system
  9. Guidelines in communication when talking to your children
  10. The symptoms of abuse in:
    A. Children
    B. Females as they become adolescents or adults
    C. Male symptoms as they become adults:
    D. Suicidal ideation
  11. Dr. Allender’s book Wounded Heart, identifies four primary areas of pervasive repercussions:
    A. Powerless:
    B. Betrayal:
    C. Ambivalence:
    1. The double message:
    D. Relational Style:
  12. Renewal of the mind occurs through the Word of God and effectual healing prayer.
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Crisis Management (text page 54)

  1. Crisis is
  2. The impact is determined by
  3. The power in related to two factors:
  4. Crisis has four phases:
    A. Impact
    B. Withdrawal
    C. Adjustment
    D. Reconstruction/Reconciliation
  5. There are to any crisis is the first realization that needs to be made.
  6. Help the individual their projection system of the crisis- projection system
  7. Help the client to feelings appropriately.
  8. The A.B.C.D. Crisis Counseling model is simple and effective.
    A. Achieve a relationship
    B. Boil down the problem
    C. Challenge the individual
    D. Develop an ongoing plan of action
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  1. No treatment strategy will work on clients.
  2. The initial phase of treatment begins with .
  3. The SOAP method of information gathering.
    S =
    O =
    A=
    P =
  4. The major roles of counseling:
    A. Psychoanalytic Marital Therapy
    B. Social Learning - Cognitive Marital Therapy
    C. Bowen Family Systems Therapy
    (1) Emotional disturbances developed from and are by those relationships.
    (2) Eight concepts that affect family functioning - Differentiation of self: Triangles: Nuclear family emotional system: Family projections: -- Emotional cutoff: Multi-generational transmission process: Sibling position: Societal regression:
    (3) Self-differentiation
    (4) Nuclear family
  5. In marital enrichment and prevention:
    A Treatment is oriented.
    B The Prep program:
    (1)
    (2)
    (3)
    (4)
    (5)
  6. Assessment is the process of the between the and the arresting
  7. of their surroundings.
  8. Assessment must broaden the partner’s perspective of their own roles, must be strength, oriented and positive:
  9. Boundary conditions
  10. The goals of communications are
  11. Five steps to achieve these goals are:
    A. Ability to listen:
    B. Constructive request making:
    C. Selective, specific and timely feedback:
    D. Clarification:
    E. Self-expression - taught the self - statement rules:
  12. All behavior is always you always what you sow.
  13. that debts are more likely to be paid as opposed to .
  14. Instability stems from everything in the being by both parties in terms of .
  15. The to marital therapy works with a man and woman .
    This treatment choice is indicated when
    Conjoint therapy has advantages:
    Conjoint therapy has disadvantages:
  16. The initial stages:
    A. Non-violent contract: -
    B. Safety precautions for the woman:
  17. Anger management technique:
    A. Awareness of anger:
    B.
  18. Communication technique:
    A. Fair fight rules
    B. “Mind reading” and other maladaptive communication
    C. Reintroduction of humor
  19. Cognitive framing:
    A. Ritualistic behavior
    B.
    C. Change irrational beliefs
    D. Improve self-esteem
    E. Confront denials
    F. Teach assertive expressions of feelings
    G. Problem solving taught
    H. Couples are to discuss and think about each other’s
  20. In time of crisis:
    A. Assess the potential for physical violence:
    B. Emotional will be elevated Time is an issue Blaming
    C. Provide an opportunity for expression of emotions.
    D. Things not to do or say:
  21. The three prong phases by Jan Frank:
    A. Fact it
    B. Trace it
    C. Erase it
  22. Three elements of establishing trust:
    A.
    B.
    C.
  23. In Luke 4:18, Jesus came to: Deliver - open doors those who mourn.
  24. The was sent and came to continue that ministry us to others- especially our brothers and sisters. II Cor.
    1:3&4 and John 14:16.
  25. Ministry of supernatural deliverance - spiritual warfare:
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The Secret Revealed: Facing the Truth (text page 81)

  1. Why family secrets are kept:
  2. The process of breaking through the denial
  3. The gave a word of wisdom to the counselor that confronted the denial.
  4. The brought conviction.
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Determination: Assessing the Problem (text page 82)

  1. Generational Patterns
  2. In about % of family violence cases, one or both parents come from or families of origin.
  3. Exodus 20:5 and the dynamics of Generational Patterns of abuse
  4. , , and are types of a root of bitterness.
  5. Three ways to deal with these feelings:
    A.
    B.
    C.
  6. When patterns are discovered, there will be an impact to be dealt with
  7. In Wounded Heart, Dan Allender states, “We must overcome us and learn to the other person.
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Deliverance: Destroying Fortresses (text page 84)

  1. Luke 4:18
  2. John 14:16
  3. II Cor 1:3
  4. The prayer of deliverance, Foundational scriptures:
    A. Exodus 34:6- 7
    B. Galatians 3:13
    C. Matthew 12:43-45
    D. James 5: 13-17
    E. II Cor 10:3-6
  5. The client must see their responsibility, from scripture, to deal with issues of their past by:
  6. A session should be set aside for the season of prayer to break past bondages:
  7. In dealing with thought, II Cor. 10:3-6 discusses:
    A. Our Warfare:
    B. The Power:
    C. Casting down:
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Decontamination: The Cleansing from Shame (text page 88)

  1. Review of the process steps:
    A. Our Warfare:
    B. The Power:
    C. Casting down:
  2. Repentance: II Cor 7:10. Godly sorrow produces without .
  3. Repentance - The sowing of The sowing of See Matt 13:24-30, 36-43.
    A. The Devil’s seed
    B. Weeding the garden
  4. Grief and loss - a process:
    A. Shock
    B. Denial
    C. Fantasy vs. Reality
    D. Grief as a release
    E. Learning to live with the memories
    F. Acceptance and Affirmation
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Direction: New Beginnings (text page 92)

  1. The overall goal of counseling is the of the and the .
  2. The client must be taught how to “” in God’s Word.
  3. Forgiveness is an absolute . it is a not an event.
  4. Insure and instill that the of Jesus will never fail.
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The Church’s Response (text page 93)

  1. The church’s response has been characterized by and ignoring the problem.
  2. Recognize the symptoms of abuse in a church setting:
  3. Suggestions for pastors and counselors:
    A. What is told to you about such abuse should always be taken seriously, If the wife says she is being abused, her.
    B. If the woman is in immediate danger:
    C. In a time of crisis, the victim will need to realize that they have .
    D. Repairing lost self-esteem through scriptural counseling:
    (1) Romans 5:8
    (2) Romans 8:37
    (3) I John 3:1
    (4) I John 4:10
    (5) A support group in the church
  4. Response to Abusing Men
    A. Promises to change must be accompanied by , , going to .
    B. Follow up with partner.
    Establish a system of with other in the church.
  5. Role of the Church:
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Case Study I (text page 96)

  1. Statement of the Problem:
  2. Initial interview:
    A.
    B.
  3. History:
  4. Treatment Process:
    A.
    B.
    C.
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Case Study II (text page 97)

  1. Low Self-esteem:
  2. Co-dependency:
  3. Extreme anxiety:
  4. History:
    A. Verbal
    B. Physical
    C. Which is more harmful immediately? permanently?
  5. Present:
    A. Episodic violence
    B. Pornography addiction
    C. Controlling behavior
  6. Course of Treatment:
    A. After six months she decided that he was too much for her

    B. Prognosis:
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COUNSELING MINISTRY AND FAMILY

VIOLENCE

FINAL EXAM

INTRODUCTION:

This is the final exam for the course Counseling Ministry and Family Violence. You will note that the exam is an open book unless otherwise announced. The test is comprised of 60 true/false questions, followed by 40 multiple choices and a 10-point essay question for extra credit. The test should be approached from the mind set of "is this mostly true or more true than other response?". The questions are not purposely ambiguous but designed for the student to think and respond in a mature and logical manner. Any answer left blank will be counted as a wrong answer, thus there is no penalty for a best guess. I would recommend prayer before beginning, and do not allow distractions of concentration. May the Lord help you to do your best for him.

TRUE FALSE QUESTIONS

  1. According to Geller, in1976 1 in 26 wives annually were sexually abused in the United States.
  2. In the same study, 3.8% annually were physically abused by their spouses.
  3. 30% of homicides of females occurred at the hands of their husband.
  4. Of the nearly 15 million cases of physical assault in the United States, more than 50% are reported to the police.
  5. The focus of the text is to bring information to those who are wounded by healers to repentance
  6. Only those who were raised in a violent and dysfunctional family system can properly minister to someone who has been abused.
  7. The family is the primary unit of socialization.
  8. The family is an institution created by God for the procreation and protection of his covenant.
  9. The family is an institution created by God for the training and development of all human beings.
  10. The family is both a collection of individuals with individual Psychology and a system.
  11. When the family system is not functioning well, the homophobic balance can be upset.
  12. An identified patient is an adolescent who is not functioning will within his or her family.
  13. The pastor in the counselling role must be willing to deal with the whole family on an equal basis if they are to be helpful.
  14. There are very limited biblical references where family violence is properly discussed.
  15. Father knows Best, The Waltons, Leave it to Beaver and The Brady Bunch ate examples of unrealistic family role models.
  16. All family problems are caused by personal sin or the sin of the fathers.
  17. One of the definitions of the family according to Funk and Wagnalls Standard Dictionary states that the family is a "constitution of members by blood or law, of people, to include parents and children whether natural, adoptive or foster children."
  18. Abusive language is included as a part of the definition of Abuse.
  19. Abuse can be both verbal and physical, perpetrated by the stronger upon the weaker.
  20. Family violence is so senseless that it is difficult to define properly.
  21. According to Gal. 6:1 we are to restore the perpetrator and the victim.
  22. The causes of domestic violence are multiple and clearly documented in the literature.
  23. According to Goldberg, one of the primary causes of domestic violence is the accumulation of rage in intimate bonded heterosexual relationships.
  24. The patterns for domestic violence are alluded to in the passage of scripture on generational patterns.
  25. Psychosomatic complaints, complaining and nagging, helplessness and fear are all words belonging to pathological women wherever they are found.
  26. Masculine expressions of rage are primarily seen in workaholism.
  27. Domestic violence is described in the text as a rhythm between two people.
  28. For rhythm to work properly there must be significant emotional dependency and immaturity.
  29. Family stress is one of the key contributions to the cycle of domestic violence and abuse.
  30. Selye defined stress in a most comprehensive manner, through there is not enough information on the subject to be clinically helpful.
  31. Stress in the family is as old as mankind. Dynamic tension can be first seen in the Garden of Eden.
  32. A humanistic approach to the problem of anger is to attempt to manage it. It has no Biblical basis.
  33. Most people respond to stress by collapsing together in support.
  34. This "collapsing together" can lead to incestuous relationships.
  35. Lee suggests that a counsellor needs to have the client make a priority list of things he/she values.
  36. Self-esteem is strictly a humanistic concept and as thus anti-Christ in origin.
  37. Activating Control is a very important tool for stress management.
  38. Collins listed eight stages of possible stressors, of which all carry the same weight.
  39. Communication is necessary for success, happiness and contentment in life.
  40. Members of violent families learn early in life to disassociate themselves from the unpleasant lectures of growing up.
  41. The Word of God states in Ephesians 4:25-32 a lot of good principles but little practical advice for today.
  42. According to Brewer, nearly 1 in 10 women are battered each year.
  43. Spousal abuse is seen in the church less often than in society at large.
  44. Isolation is a sinister form of abuse.
  45. Marital rape is being reported more now than 10 years ago and as seen as both illegal and immoral by the vast majority of the United States.
  46. The tension building base of the abuse cycle is caused by multiple factors.
  47. Alcohol as a frequent part of every type of abuse in family.
  48. Withdrawal from the spouse is often the straw that breaks the camel's back and instigates the actual abuse, especially physical.
  49. The "Honeymoon Phase" is the most important therapeutic intervention you can provide a violent couple
  50. An intervention is designed to bring the abuser to a place where he or she will see professional assistance.
  51. Christ-centered treatment of the abuser and the victim is needed in a abusive family situation.
  52. The 12 Step movement is not particularly helpful in an abusive family situation.
  53. The foremost theory in the field of child abuse was suggested by Holmes and Rahe.
  54. Abusers are primarily found in the lower economic strata of life, which is against the scripture.
  55. The text lists 4 primary categories of child abuse.
  56. HeIfer, R.E. developed a self-instructional program on child abuse and neglect.
  57. Care-givers in the church are under no obligation to report child abuse unless accompanied by the pastor or in the mouth of two to three witnesses.
  58. Sexual abuse often follows a typical sequence of stages according to Dr. Dan Allender.
  59. Most of the symptoms of an adult molested as a child are fabrications of a child's imagination.
  60. Crisis management is often the first step in assistance in the case of abuse in the family.

    61. TRUE FALSE QUESTIONS

  61. The power of effect of a crisis is determined by the:
    A. Closeness of the event
    B. Perception of the meaning of the event
    C. Spiritual condition of the client
    D. B and C
    E. A and B
  62. The four phases of a crisis, according to Dr. Wright are:
    A. Impact, Withdrawal Confusion, Adjustment, Reconstruction reconciliation
    B. Impact, Withdrawal, Confusion, Adjustment
    C. Impact Withdrawal, Confusion/Adjustment, Reconciliation
  63. In the A, B, C, D model of crisis intervention, the B stands for:
    A. Best intentions
    B. Boil down the problem
    C. Boil chicken soup
    D. Begin to Pray
  64. In the A, B, C, D model of crisis intervention, the A stands for achieve a relationship. The most important aspect of this process is:
    A. Don't use trite cliches
    B. achieve a relationship
    C. Listen without judgement
    D. Provide scripture verses for comfort.
  65. Soap is:
    A. Necessary for cleaning
    B. Asked for if a rape has occurred
    C. Method of information gathering
    D. System of note-taking
  66. In Psychoanalytic Marital Therapy the client is the:
    A. Family
    B. Individual and the family
    C. The identified patient
    D. The therapist is very skilled
  67. In ministering to a family or an individual we need to focus on restoring:
    A. The victim and the perpetrator
    B. Comfort and restore
    C. Trust and obey
    D. The Victim and the family
  68. The primary causes of violence in the family, according to the author, are:
    A. Anger, guilt, fear and activation
    B. Anger, fear, stress; and anxiety
    C. Anger, fear, guilt and stress
    D. Anger, guilt, fear and distress
  69. In middle adulthood the primary stressors include:
    A. Vocational success, relating to spouse as a person, adapting to physical changes.
    B. Encouraging the children, adapting to change, assisting the children.
    C. Vocational stress, encouraging the children, leisure-time activities.
    D. All of the above
  70. Read-blocks to good communication include the following:
    A. Over statement, mind-reading, finger-pointing and lying
    B. Winning, gossip, overstatement and projecting blame
    C. A and C
    D. B and C
  71. Slaps, bruised arms, choking and kicking are characteristic of:
    A. The terrible two's
    B. Major physical assault
    C. Physical Abuse
    D. The Los Angeles Raiders
  72. Lenora Walker describes three phases to the abuse cycle. In order they are:
    A. Tension building, Honeymoon and Violence
    B. Tension Release, Violence and Honeymoon
    C. Tension building, Violence, Lovemaking D. Tension Building, Violent episodes and Honeymoon
  73. After a violent episode, the violent spouse usually feels:
    A. Guilty as sin
    B. Stupid
    C. Remorseful
    D. Resentful
    E. Resigned
  74. Alcohol and drugs will:
    A. Lower good judgement, decrease inhibitions and give impulsive feelings
    B. decrease mental functioning, increase inhibitions and give expression
    C. Lower inhibitions, decrease functioning and insure personal humiliation
    D. Decrease psychomotor activity, increase inhibitions, give permission to act out
  75. The five primary roles that adolescents may take in dysfunctional families are:
    A. Rebellion, rock music, drug alcohol, sex
    B. Enabler, establisher, mentor, friend of the family, scapegoat
    C. Happy, sad, angry, hurt and scared
    D. Enabler, mascot, lost child, scapegoat and healer
    E. None of the above
  76. How many primary social/governmental agencies are likely to be involved in a child abuse case?
    A. 4
    B. 6
    C. 5
    D. 3
  77. In the Touch continuum a child is taught that there is safe and non-safe touching. The points on the continuum does not include:
    A. Lack of Touch
    B. Good and Bad
    C. Natural Affection
    D. Confusing touch
  78. Dr. Allender lists four symptoms caused by sexual abuse. They are:
    A. Powerlessness, Betrayal, Ambivalence, Relational Style
    B. Lack of Love, fear, bitterness, selfishness
    C. Hopelessness, despair, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, Suicidal Ideation
    D. All of the above
    E. None of the above
  79. There are five factors that determine the impact of a crisis. They include:
    A. Our spiritual walk, our genetic predisposition, and our prayer life
    B. Our spiritual walk, our genetic predisposition, and our support systems
    C. Our spiritual walk, our genetic predisposition, our past history, and the knowledge of the word.
    D. Our spiritual walk, our knowledge of the word, our past history, and our prayer life
  80. In order to assist someone in a crisis, you need to:
    A. Be a caring and compassionate person
    B. Understand the steps to a resolution
    C. Study the word for wisdom in the situation
    D. Be a capable counsellor
  81. Prevention ideally starts with:
    A. Planning
    B. Premarital counseling
    C. Prayer
    D. Unity
  82. Assessment and Diagnosis are:
    A. A necessary evil
    B. For insurance billing purpose only
    C. A part of the treatment process
    D. Assessment surpasses diagnosis
  83. The author presents five communication techniques that are helpful in marital and family counselling. The one that seems to improve the quality of communication most is:
    A. Self-Expression
    B. Clarification
    C. Selective, Specific and Timely Feedback
    D. The ability to listen
  84. In working with marriages in crisis, you must keep in mind then following:
    A. Emotions, Time and Blame
    B. Time, Place and Person
    C. Yesterday, Today and forever
    D. Moe, Curly and Larry
  85. Face it, Trace it and erase it relate to:
    A. A Door of hope
    B. Jan Frank
    C. Three pronged phase of counselling
    D. Helping the victim of Incest
  86. Role playing and Journaling are a form of therapy.Complete the sentence.
    A. Experimental
    B. Psychodynamic
    C. Family of Origin
    D. Experimental
  87. The most difficult thing for a victim or perpetrator to do is:
    A. Admit their problem
    B. Trust
    C. Submit to change
    D. Receive Christ
  88. In dealing with our thought life, we must remember and do the following:
    A. Spiritual warfare
    B. Cast down imaginations
    C. Stand on the word of God
    D. Get more power
  89. Facing the Truth is an event and a
    A. Breakthrough
    B. Skill
    C. Work of the Spirit
    D. Process
  90. The best predictor of present and future behaviour is:
    A. Past Behavior
    B. Generation Curse
    C. The MMPI D. The Gifts of the Spirit
  91. According to the author, when a person has been violated in or outside the family, he/she has____ choices to deal with the emotion.
    A. 1
    B. 2
    C. 3
    D. 4
  92. Repentance with our regret, will not often lead people to:
    A. Liberty
    B. Freedom
    C. Deliverance
    D. Salvation
  93. Weeds sown into someone's life is illustrative of.
    A. The word of God
    B. The work of the enemy
    C. The result of sin
    D. A poor illustration
  94. The fifth stage of grief according to the author is called:
    A. Mourning
    B. Living with the memories
    C. Denial
    D. Acceptance and Affirmation
  95. In terms of the healing process, the Word of God is:
    A. The Sword of the Spirit
    B. Jesus Christ
    C. A dynamic force
    D. Awesome
  96. Forgiveness is both an event and a process. However it cannot be:
    A. Forced
    B. Easy
    C. Complete without full confession
    D. Forgotten
  97. If an abusing spouse comes for counselling the best approach is to:
    A. Refer as quickly as possible
    B. Restore the person a God leads you
    C. Confront the sin
    D. Gather information before treatment
  98. According to Dr. Geffen, Abusers and victims had:
    A. Severely dysfunctional families
    B. Many similar characteristics
    C. Serious Communication problems
    D. Unresolved Oedipal issues
  99. For a non-violence contract to be effective it must insure:
    A. Security and Honesty
    B. Commitment and Covenant
    C. Blessings and Honor
    D. Commitment and Safety
  100. A listing of items that can trigger an angry and abusive episode is called:
    A. Non-Violent repertoire
    B. Violent repertoire
    C. Angry Display
    D. Obnoxious Repast
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BONUS QUESTION

For a maximum of 10 points, answer the following question on a separate piece of paper. You may use no more than three types of written pages for your response.

You have been designated as the Elder for Counselling in your church. As such, you are responsible for all in church counselling as well as helping those from outside the church. You have just received a message from the pastor that a fellow elder and wife will not be in service due to a serious domestic dispute. Your pastor has directed you to "go help them out and keep it discreet". For up to 10 points, answer the following questions and give biblical reference and reference from the text or other outside resources.


A. How would you approach the situation?
B. What interventions might you use and why?
C. How would you deal with the issues of confidentiality?
D. What is your biblical responsibility to the church, Pastor, Elder, wife and children, etc.?